Change Your Script, Change Your Life
Change Your Script
Change Your Life
When you’re in a good flow, life is less about making “right” decisions and more being in tune with yourself, others, and your surroundings. You’re making choices and creating life from spaces that didn’t seem available prior. Being a fuller, more alive version of yourself is knowing you have the capacity within to create change.
How do you effectively create change?
As you know more about yourself, meaning you’re aware of the unconscious scripts you’re operating from, and then, taking the courage to step out of that box, you now create newness. Well then, what are your scripts and how can you change them?
Scripts are anything that creates tactic rules for your life that prevent full aliveness. You’ve learned these scripts from friends, childhood, society, social media, work, and school. They form an inner dialogue that uses phrases like, “I should do that because,” “I shouldn’t do this because,” or, “I can’t do that because…” These scripts run our lives. Sure, some scripts are healthy—”I’m late, but I shouldn’t run across the street in traffic”—but I’m not talking about those scripts.
I’ll give an example of scripts that prompted me to write this blog today. I moved to a new area a few months ago. There’s a scenic, well kept basketball court. When I saw it, my primal self instantly wanted to shoot some hoops. I own a basketball, but it’s been a number of years since I’ve played and it had gone flat. Every day, I drive past that basketball court, each time yearning to shoot some hoops, yet each time the scripts give me reasons I can’t. When peeled back, many of the unconscious scripts emanate from people who are not me.
“I shouldn’t buy a new ball pump…” Because it’s a waste of money for a one-time use.”
“I can’t contact someone to ask if they have a pump…” Because I would be a burden on them.
“I should instead do tasks that are a more productive use of time...” Because I don’t have time to waste.
While it would be simple, effective, and healthy to note these scripts, then make a requisite change (i.e. buy a ball pump on Amazon for $5, which, thank you blog, I just did), I want to give you a little extra to enhance your relationship with yourself. Instead of robotically making changes, what if you addressed the scripts with compassion, curiosity, and light challenge? How can you create more excitement and joy within yourself?
Change your script by changing the questions you ask yourself. The questions you ask yourself create your scripts. Instead of perhaps a half-dozen low conscious (and unexciting) decisions a day, you’ll instead be making hundreds (of exciting!) high conscious, micro-decisions a day. Instead of those automated scripts that say, “I should do this” or “I shouldn’t do this,” you perhaps open more:
“Could I do this?”
“Perhaps I could try…”
“What would be the most healing way to approach this?”
“What values do I want to embody, today, tonight, or this week?”
“How can I not just embody those values, but amplify them so they’re contagious?”
“If there were no constraints, what do I need?”
“If it were up to me, what would I want?”
“What do I truly crave?”
“What do I desire?”
“What energy do I/we want to create?”
“How do I want them to feel?”
“How do I want them to experience me?”
“How do I want them to experience themselves?”
“If I had unlimited time/support/money/energy, what steps would I take?”
“What new feeling experience do I want to experience?”
“If my childhood were different, how would I do it?”
“What’s the worst that could happen and…could I handle that?”
“What’s the worst that could happen and…how will I handle that?”
Making sense how you can shift your unconscious scripts? Keep in mind, these are just questions. You can bring even more life and consciousness to these too.
Try shifting the texture, tone, timbre, and temperature of your new questions. Alliteration aside, playing around with how you ask yourself questions yields a completely different life. Take the last question, “What’s the worst that could happen and…how will I handle that?” What if you asked it with an oversized, wry yet curious smile as you slowly articulate, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Now breathe in deeply and expansively, with shoulders back and chest out, almost humming from your throat, “How will I handle that!!” The way you breathe, enunciate, and posture can create a complete conscious, energy shift. You’re tuning into you. You’re finding answers, truth, and life from spaces and places that were barren.