Tired? Exhausted? Hopeless? Restructure Your Internal Organization

Does it feel like the world is getting a little crazier? Is it hard to keep up?

These days, everything has been changing: dating and relationships, family structures, work industries, living arrangements, social activities, politics, etc. While some changes are beneficial—people are becoming more empowered, adventurous, efficient, bold, creative, well-rounded, and integrated—they don’t come without a cost. You’re also not alone if changes are leaving you overwhelmed, frustrated, lost, confused—even sad, alone, and hopeless.

If this is resonating with you, you’re not only not the only one. I can safely give structure to your well-being and mental health. You game?

Boundaries, consciousness, anxiety, identityDan LoneySeptember 25, 2022tired, exhaustedComment

Is Dating Too Confusing? Try the “Cups” Method

These days, relationships are more nuanced than ever. With nuances come role confusion, meaning, people just don’t know what to do in situations.

Who initiates? Who pays? Who calls back? Or is it a text? Perhaps a gif? Do you go to a higher level of physical intimacy if you like someone…or do you go to a lower level of physical intimacy because the relationship is special?

Boundaries, datingDan LoneyMarch 13, 2021cups

Social Media and Relationships

In this blog, I’m going to give you some perspective on how social media is subtly changing us individually and relationally, as well as a few healthy steps we can take in these changing times.

First, for some perspective.

Did you know that with each notification ping, flash, and buzz, the feel-good chemical of dopamine is released in your brain? Dopamine is a reward signaling that we’ve accomplished something. It helps us relax. It’s why social media is addictive; we are not accomplishing anything and receiving the good effects of it. This isn’t by accident—each part of social media has been programmed to make you stick around.

relationships, identity, BoundariesDan LoneyAugust 21, 2019social mediaComment

You Have More Options Than You Think

Have you heard of, ‘black-and-white,’ ‘all-or-nothing,’ or ‘always-or-never,’ type thinking?

Of course you have.

Did you know that the more pressure you feel, the more it seems like your options decrease? And when you have those black-and-white options, you’re stressed. Neither will sound appetizing. Actually, they’ll make you want to throw up. They might look something like this:

schema therapy, BoundariesDan LoneyJuly 31, 2019

How to Set Healthy Boundaries - Part II (Identity)

Boundaries and identity complement one another. Better knowing yourself allows you to set healthily boundaries; setting healthier boundaries allows you to know your true self.

· Decreased stress and insecurity

· Increased energy and confidence

BoundariesDan LoneyMay 19, 2019

How to Set Healthy Boundaries – Part 1 (Awareness)

When asking a couple what they want to achieve in therapy, you know what the #1 answer is? Communication. It’s often said, “This person never communicates to me.” But here’s the thing. We’re always communicating. Always.

The text you don’t send; the eye contact you’ve chosen to avoid; the time you choose to not express your thoughts. That’s all a message that you’re communicating to someone else.

BoundariesDan LoneyMay 2, 2019boundaries

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