Directed Energy: Part I | San Diego Therapy

Everyone wants better life situations.

In our bones we feel the tension from where we are to where we want to be.

In the space from where we are to where we want to be, there’s one piece missing containing two ingredients: directed energy. Without increasing your directed energy, your life can’t change its trajectory.

Directed energy is like a car. Energy is the motor, direction is the steering wheel. You can still drive if you have a partially working motor or steering wheel—but if you want to get to your desired destination, both must be fully operational.

What Your Relationship Probably Looks Like

In a relationship have you ever found yourself getting into the same cycle over and over? Okay, you’re not blind.

One person gets frustrated, the other gets silent. One person feels unheard and unloved, the other person feels they can never do enough to please the other. One person reaches out, the other pulls away. One person yells, the other yells louder. Time and space comes in between, perhaps even an apology. And at some point, one person tests to see if it’s safe. Then there’s some form of emotional reconnection, even if it’s a small one.

Over time, your cycle are happen so automatically that you don’t even realize they’re happening. That’s called being in a stuck state. You know what’s interesting? Did you know your relational cycle isn’t unique? Almost every couple goes through the same patterns.

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