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Navigating the Avoidant Attachment Epidemic
Navigating the Avoidant Attachment Epidemic

Avoidant attachment is becoming an epidemic.

You may have already heard of the four attachment styles:

  1. Secure attachment - low anxiety, low avoidance. There’s trust, comfort with intimacy, and the ability to communicate needs and openly receive a partner’s communication without becoming combative or dismissive.

  2. Anxious attachment - high anxiety, low avoidance. A constant need for external validation and assurance. Even when things are quite and “normal,” there’s a fear of either rejection or abandonment. Drama may be created to find closeness again.

  3. Avoidant attachment - low anxiety, high avoidance (hence the name).

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couples therapy, Boundaries, attachment, dating, EFT, emotionally focused, north county therapy, schema therapy, trauma, San Diego Couples Therapy, relationshipsDan Loneyattachment, eft, avoidant attachment, fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant, secure attachment, anxious attachment, disorganized attachment
What Your Relationship Probably Looks Like
What Your Relationship Probably Looks Like

In a relationship have you ever found yourself getting into the same cycle over and over? Okay, you’re not blind.

One person gets frustrated, the other gets silent. One person feels unheard and unloved, the other person feels they can never do enough to please the other. One person reaches out, the other pulls away. One person yells, the other yells louder. Time and space comes in between, perhaps even an apology. And at some point, one person tests to see if it’s safe. Then there’s some form of emotional reconnection, even if it’s a small one.

Over time, your cycle are happen so automatically that you don’t even realize they’re happening. That’s called being in a stuck state. You know what’s interesting? Did you know your relational cycle isn’t unique? Almost every couple goes through the same patterns.

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couples therapy, eftDan Loneyeft