Men’s issues are rarely spoken about. If put in the open, they’re often not taken seriously or even made fun of. On top of that, they’re evolving.
What worked in the past is outdated. A few decades ago, the primary role of a man was to provide and protect. Now there’s role confusion.
As a therapist for men’s issues in San Diego and a telehealth therapist, I often see this pattern: even if a man is checking off all the boxes, there’s still a feeling that prevails…it’s still not enough.
Read MoreWe live from our set of values. Like grooves on a record, after enough spins, we struggle to imagine how anyone could live by another song—another code.
In relationships, both people are playing their own record. This difference in rhythm can either heal us or break us.
We often think, if only my partner understood how I operate, we’d get along better.
But it’s precisely this polarity that fuels intimacy.
Read MoreThe way we speak about ourselves quietly shapes the way we live.
We toss off phrases like, “I’ve got anxiety,” “I’ll never be able to afford a house,” or “I’m not a morning person,” without a second thought. They might feel honest, even factual. But are they aligned with the future we’re trying to create?
Language is more than expression—it’s direction. We tend to live into the truths we repeat most often, especially when they begin with “I.” The stories we speak become the filters through which we see ourselves, our choices, and our possibilities.
Even a gentle reframe can open a new emotional window.
Read MoreTake a look at this blog on how to double your emotional intelligence.
We’re going to get into primary emotions versus secondary emotions, and why it’s vital—for yourself and your loved ones—to tune in to what’s happening beneath the surface.
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