Posts tagged attachment
Navigating the Avoidant Attachment Epidemic

Avoidant attachment is becoming an epidemic.

You may have already heard of the four attachment styles:

  1. Secure attachment - low anxiety, low avoidance. There’s trust, comfort with intimacy, and the ability to communicate needs and openly receive a partner’s communication without becoming combative or dismissive.

  2. Anxious attachment - high anxiety, low avoidance. A constant need for external validation and assurance. Even when things are quite and “normal,” there’s a fear of either rejection or abandonment. Drama may be created to find closeness again.

  3. Avoidant attachment - low anxiety, high avoidance (hence the name).

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Navigating Healthy Relationships in Modern Times | San Diego Couples Therapist

People commonly date a partner based on preferences. A range of height and build.  A shared love of sushi, acoustic playlists, or Sunday farmer’s markets. Preferences create comfort.

Go one layer deeper and we meet values—religion, work ethic, health, wellness. Shared values create stability.

In the past, comfort + stability was enough.
But not anymore.

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2021: Jumpstart Your Relationships

If you want to jumpstart all your relationships in 2021, tune in.

In “The Whole Brain Child,” Dr. Daniel Siegel, psychiatrist and author, explains a key concept of how to communicate to children called, “Connect, then Redirect.” The thing is, connecting and redirecting is not just for relationships with children—it’s for everyone.

I’ll explain.

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