"Why" the Past is Overrated | San Diego Therapy

The “why” or how something came to be can be important. Insight can be important. But often, as someone is on the precipice of breakthrough, “why’s” can hijack the body and heart from melting into change.

Yes— it may sound strange to hear a therapist sat you don’t need more insight. But we’re saturated with insight. We can watch a thousand videos on attachment styles and origin of trauma, but if it’s not translating to meaningful change in a present moment, more insight is endless speedbumps.

attachment, consciousness, couples therapy, EFT, emotionally focused, north county therapy, relationships, San Diego Couples Therapy, san diego therapy, unstuckDan LoneyJuly 7, 2026San Diego Individual Therapy, San Diego Couples Therapy, north county san diego therapy

At Capacity

It was the early 2000s and I was at a Denny’s.

I remember the waiter gave us some styrofoam boxes to pack our leftovers. We were confused. The waiter said their new policy was to have customers pack their leftovers. Soon after, this trend was everywhere.

The process of offloading energy, service, and cost to customers has only been increasing. Last week was another first for me: 3% fee for a credit card… for servicing my car! From every angle we’re being commoditized.

Without our consent, we’ve had to pick up the pieces—but we’ve got limits on what our souls can handle. Each added responsibility increases pressure within. Everyone feels it.

The bottom line?

People are at capacity.

San Diego Couples Therapy, san diego therapy, self-esteem, schema therapy, EFT, couples therapy, Boundaries, attachment, emotionally focused, identityDan LoneyApril 8, 2026at capacity, therapy for men in san diego, San Diego Couples Therapy, San Diego Individual Therapy, north county san diego therapyComment

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